Everybody looks out for #1. It’s not selfish. It’s natural, and there’s nothing wrong with it— it’s our default setting. I believe that people are well intentioned in their desire to help one another, but life gets in the way– their life. Sure, I said I’d recommend someone I just worked with, and I really would like to, but when I get home I’ve got family commitments, plans with friends, and business issues to address… not to mention 97 new emails and 4 new voicemails. My default setting kicks back in, and I just never get around to making that call for a friend.
The solution? Be proactive! Take the initiative. In this case– follow up!
When you’re on the fence about whether or not to be proactive and send that reminder email, drop by an office to introduce yourself, or bring up a necessary but maybe awkward issue, always choose YES. Make it your policy.
Will there be times when being proactive will cause you rejection? Absolutely. You may come off as being “too much,” too forward, too aggressive.
Are you going to allow a concern over how you might be perceived by a few to hold you back? Even if you’re met with resistance, on some level you will be regarded with respect for your willingness to ask for what you want, to put yourself out there, and to face potential rejection.
Some may disagree, but I believe that you have to risk occasionally irritating others by being too proactive. The cost of choosing NO, quietly moving along, and always playing it safe is just too high.
TAKEAWAY—When you’re debating whether or not to be proactive in a situation that may take you out of your comfort zone, force yourself always to say YES. Be proactive. Proactivity initiates forward momentum which leads to performance.
This excerpt was adapted from the book Life Choices: Pursuing Your Passion of which Jeff is a co-author. Jeff Civillico is a Las-Vegas based headline entertainer who blends his perfected art of juggling with friendly audience interaction and insane amounts of energy. With his “Comedy in Action” show, he has performed everywhere from Australia and New Zealand to The White House. He is a favorite onboard Disney Cruise Line, and his credits on the Las Vegas Strip include V: The Ultimate Variety Show, Nathan Burton, and The Improv at Harrah’s.
In addition to his comedy show, Jeff also delivers a powerful keynote that illustrates the keys to “Branding Your Passion” to create the career, and lifestyle, of your dreams. A 2005 honors graduate of Georgetown University, Jeff currently serves as President of the Georgetown Alumni Club of Las Vegas. He is the Founder and President of Win-Win Entertainment, a non-profit that pairs performers willing to donate their time and talent with charities in need of entertainment.